Contact the addressee
If you discuss with your partner what and why you don’t like something in your relationship, and they only got a part of the conversation: “Dear, we live like strangers!” they probably did not “hear” your feelings and anxiety. This is very upsetting because in the conversation you probably voiced options that could help you both live better. But important information got completely ignored.
Also, at your workplace or among friends: to complain out loud “into the air” and at the same time hope that the message will reach the boss or some comrades, is ineffective. Due to personality traits, people can turn your words upside down. As a result, the real addressee “will hear from you” … something that would be better not to hear!
So, obviously: if you want a particular person to hear your opinion, he needs to hear all the (keyword “all”!) information. To maximize the meaning and emotion that is being told to them. Spreading untrue rumors can hurt everyone involved.
The ability to speak enrichingly with bright epithets, jokes, metaphors, unfortunately, does not always benefit the speaker.
You must understand that even with a concentrated and conscious perception of the text at a visual level, provided there is complete silence in the surrounding area, the average individual does not always catch the meaning of the material proposed by the other individual.
Here is an example of how not to talk! Ambient – not inattentive or uneducated, but quite normal moderately busy people.
Conclusion: in order for your speech to be perceived by a majority of people, it is necessary to speak clearly and to the point.
Fewer introductory words
There are very common words in conversations that prevent us from being heard. These are commonly expressed and is upsetting to be heard: “Nobody ever listens to me,” “If you only listened to me.” Or even stated aggressively: “Do you not know? And I will tell you now!” ” Can you listen to what an intelligent person tells you?” ”
Often, people perceive them as a sign of tediousness, an attempt to “teach or school them.” Then, instead of paying attention to the words, the person’s brain includes a resistance reaction. Or, even worse, it catches the signal: “Now there will be a classic notation” – and it is completely turned off. Normally, people without these prefaces listen to you.
If the case is not easy, you can try to use other provocative-catchy phrases: “This information is not for everyone, but you can discover …”, “You are very clever, attentive, and I want to tell you …”
It can happen when you are in a business meeting. To say the main thing “quickly” in such a situation is unfortunately uncommon. Many times, these can last several hours before you come to the conclusion. But if your team is half asleep before you begin, they will most likely not hear most of the conversations.
What will help? An energetic: “Hooray! I was given the word and have something to say!” A quick funny line, like: “Who hears me, raise your thumb on your left hand!” or “Thanks, friends! My suggestion is …”- such methods will “wake up” the people so they can understand a little more.
When reading a long report? It is worth considering how to return the attention back to the audience. It does not have to be a bright presentation on the screen. Sometimes even a pen pulled out of a pocket to demonstrate how a stimulus (pressing a button) generates a reaction (popping a rod) works.
Someone is telling you about their problems, trying to get from you sensible tips on how to improve things. Unfortunately, they may not be hearing you at all? And even the opposite: interrupts or changes the subject. It can be so frustrating!
You must remember and take in to account that most likely, with your words, everything is fine. But the other person who behaves in this way is focused on something else mentally (thinking to themselves) although they seem to be addressing you. In this case, it is a waste of time because you are not being heard at all. It is important for you to have the other persons full attention to solve the problem.
You can help with this: Nod in response, the other person will know they were definitely heard. You do not want to spend time on someone else’s inner-monologue about their problems.
Some people concentrate more on themselves than on the conversation. On how they look, what impression they will make, what they will be doing later etc. For reasons beyond your control, they do not perceive half of the information that you have explained!
If after a conversation you doubt that a person has heard and understood you, it is better to err and duplicate the most important parts of the conversation remotely: via e-mail or text message This will help increase the chances of being acknowledged. Some people may be grateful.